There was once a woman who was always ready to help others, even when no one asked her for help, but one day she gave up being Superwoman, she decided to break the chains that hold her and which… she have imposed herself.

How she became Superwoman

Being the eldest of five siblings, at a young age she had to help her mother with housework and with her younger siblings; she believed that was her obligation, so she made this kind of her life mission.

Time passed and when she grew up, she became a Superwoman. She always strived for spiritual and professional growth, but she continued supporting others; she helped her siblings, friends, co-workers, family, couples and many more people. Even her career prompted her to want to help save the Planet.

One day she discovered that everyone could change and create the life they wanted to live, so she focused on this subject, she searched, learned and applied what she learnt and saw that it was good, she tried a little more and began to help others to understand that “Living the life we want… was possible!” at the end of the day those people were like her younger siblings, they needed her help and Superwoman should give them the tools and teaching they needed to make their dreams true.

With time this Superwoman fought battles with her ego and achieved growth and the kind of success that can remain in balance and over time, she still was trying hard because she still was supporting her family whenever they needed something, always ready to solve their problems and please them, without even thinking of asking for anything in return.

But one day…

One-day meditating she realised that she was becoming emotionally, energetically and financially empty.

She was still being the eldest sister taking care of her siblings; it pleased her to see them happy, but she realised that there were other options. Her siblings were adults and could figure out their own life, she was not obliged to help them, it was about time to set the limits in her life, for everyone else, for herself and for her goodness.

She made her inner work, reviewing her feelings and what triggered that urgent need to help others, then, she realised that this was the way in which she learnt to get her parents’ attention.

She understood that she had wanted to buy the attention and love of others and in doing so she put herself aside and was feeling empty.  

It was not that people took away from her but that she gave them everything by her own decision, seeking to obey her mother’s voice as a way to get some of the love and care she saw her mum gave to her siblings.

That day she cried a lot, she felt sad, tired and worn out by decades of unnecessary efforts.

She processed all her emotions; her fear as a child, facing the responsibility of taking care of her siblings; her fear as a single mother, having the responsibility of raising her daughter alone and her fear as an older woman facing the uncertainty of starting a new life, in another country, alone.

She realised she was irresponsible to herself while wanting to protect and please others without taking into account her needs first. 

And then she took a decision that changed her life

Because, from that day onwards, she decided to stop mothering others and start mothering herself. To stop pleasing others and start pleasing and protecting herself.

That moment she let go of the story that others needed her or couldn’t do anything without her, and she started to write a new chapter in her life.

That day, she decided to say NO to what it meant to give without receiving anything in return and to begin to be splendid with herself.

That day she gave up being Superwoman!

She released the burdens she carried on herself wanting to save everyone and feeling needed as a way of feeling loved.

That day she began to live being herself, to write a new chapter in her life and to live with more meaning and flow and true love came into her life when she least expected, a companion love, without needs, a love that asks nothing of her in return.

And she continues living happy and fulfilled, although she still wants to support those who want to create a fulfilling life, to wake up every morning with enthusiasm for the day they have ahead and head to bed with a smile of satisfaction for who they are, what they do and what they have accomplished, just like she does. However, now she only supports those who come to her with a real intention of creating that life.

If you believe that you are ready to create that life, let’s have a virtual coffee and talk.