Yes, it is your decision
To feel empowered or a victim, is your decision. If you accept, even when you disagree, or you keep doing the same thing, even if you are dissatisfied, or you feel trapped in your circumstances, it means that you are giving up your power.
It may seem “easier” to continue in the known torture, than trying something else, in either case, it is your choice.
When you give up your power, you feel victimized, helpless, trapped, without control of your life.
The worst thing is that sometimes, despite the pain, discomfort, suffering, health problems, etc., you prefer to leave things as they are.
In that case, are you really a victim of the circumstances? or do you choose to do nothing to change them?
Recently I discovered how, without realising it, I had given up my power, on an important project.
It all started when the products I received were far from what I expected. I had given her carte blanche and although I didn’t like the first results, I still thought she was the expert. In the end I felt disappointed and it was then that I reflected and recognized that:
I had not been deceived, I had elevated that person to the level of an expert, without seeing her work, only with what she had told me.
Although there were things I could modify later, the agreed specifications were not met.
I have much more knowledge about business management than I thought.
I realised I given away my power, but I could empower myself and take back the reins of the project.
Recognizing that I was just a victim of my decisions helped me change my attitude.
As a result, I decided to empower myself instead of being the victim.
I urged the person to deliver the product as agreed and found out that she had been involved in other projects and that mine, which I had also abandoned due to “disenchantment”, was far from finished.
Now, I addressed the issues with the supplier, to make sure she included the missing items and the rest I could solve in due course.
As you can see, I may have initiated a series of complaints and feel totally victimized by a person who offered one thing and gave another, but that would not solve anything. I assumed the consequences of my decisions, but I also demanded that the product offered be delivered.
Empower yourself or be a victim, you decide…
By being at the driving seat of your life, taking control of the route, of your journey, to a destination you choose for yourself, you will feel empowered, energised, motivated to take action to achieve what you want, no longer feeling that circumstances control your life.
In what areas of your life or business have you ceded your power and to whom? To your children, your husband, your team, the political conditions around you…?
